What if you could change your entire family through meditation and energy work without them having to consciously participate?
You can.
I have.
Imagine your family life full of love, good communication and positivity. You go to a family dinner and everyone gets along. You feel loved and supported each time you talk with a family member and you know they’ve got your back no matter what happens.
I know what your thinking. That will never happen. There is no way that could ever happen. My family is way too complicated or messed up. No one will ever support me. I’m not even sure they can’t stop being so… so… themselves!
Good news: I used to think the exact same thing. But now there have been some amazing developments in my personal family life as of late I am so honoured and grateful for.
I really believe it has a lot to do with the deep meditation work I’ve done, my commitment to learning better communication skills and some of the energy work I’ve done. All of it has combined together that five years after beginning my personal and ancestral healing journey I’m moving back in with my parents. I would’ve never thought it possible!
You might be saying that my unique family circumstances (which will remain private) must’ve made it easier, however, everyone’s family is a little screwed up. I left home a bit early and have consistently sought to change the ancestral family patterns of abuse. And its working.
I had to have a few insights before I could really make the changes in my family life:
1) I have the power inside of me to change the past, present, and future of my entire family. It is encoded in the DNA structure of my physical form.
2) Being born into this particular family makes me part of two lineages not just through DNA – spiritually, psychically, and mentally. This means within me I carry all the seeds my ancestors and offspring will plant or have planted.
3) Part of my work in this life time is to change the way my family operates.
4) I can do a lot of this work through energetic practices geared to heal the ancestral line and to heal myself. Healing always starts with me and spreads outward like the ripple when a drop falls into water. As I focus on my own work it effects my family and as I do work on behalf of my family it changes me.
Crazy, right?
it’s not. Let me explain.
I’m seeing the results of this in my life right now: I am in contact with family members monthly who before I would contact them once a year. I have a family member seeking my spiritual advice despite him being double my age and us not speaking more than once a year for the past five years. My mom has become a friend, and my dad and I no longer fight every time we talk. Members of my family are shifting out of negative patterns and into positive ones. One of my cousins is making herself an amazing family life right now – I’m so proud of her!
First off, I’m not saying that I am the only cause of this. Their willingness to change, explore, and to create better family connections also plays a huge part. My persistence in releasing my anger and learning to communicate better and not take things personally also plays in a lot too. But the work I did definitely cleared a lot of old energies that aren’t needed any more inside of our family line and made everyone’s desired changes come manifest easier.
Like everything else, it required a lot of work over time. The work that I’ve done include the Healing Ancestral Karma meditation, Family Constellation Therapy, Rebirthing, Reiki, Heal Childhood Anger Meditation come to mind. Where I stand in relation to my blood family is also highly affected by the personal work I’ve put into myself. The biggest ones I can recall are Kirtan Kriya, Meditation to Heal Insecurities, So Purkh, learning NVC (non-violent communication) and boundary setting, and allowing myself space and time to really just take care of myself as I heal the feeling of being broken (which did heal!!).
And you know what?
It was totally worth it.
All of the meditations, all of the personal self work, all of the vulnerable and crazy scary conversations I had to have were really worth it. I did have to pull out the “If this continues I will remove myself from your life” a few times in order to create healthy relationships with some family members. I am now seeing amazing results that change every interaction in my life with my family.
I am filled with immense gratitude now for the family I was born into, and for the relationships we have. I feel honoured and respected as a human being in our interactions. It is amazing to witness!
So how do you start healing your family connections?
I would recommend you start with the beautiful Ancestral Healing Meditation. This meditation will guide you along the way and you will receive insights as to what your next steps are as you do this meditation. It is short, sweet, and easy. But powerful beyond measure.
Trust in the process and follow your intuition. I noticed in my process that I would spend about 50% of my time healing what I perceived to be directly related to family things and 50% to my own personal work over a large period of time.
The work you do directed to your family will change ancestral patterns, dissolving blocks of energy to let it flow, and opening the space for deep healing to occur in you and family members.
Good luck!
